Alright, I don't know when it happened or why, but someone somewhere must
have decided that I was a caring and sensitive individual who was willing and
able to help troubled teens. Obviously, he doesn't know me very well.
But, because I am feeling particularly generous this morning, I will share with
you a few bits of wisdom and insight that I have gathered over the years.
Hopefully this will be enough to help you make that tough decision.
1) Life sucks...
Yes it can. People always talk about the fear of dying. What's to be afraid of?
You're dead. If you ask me, life is infinitely more terrifying than death.
However, that doesn't mean that I intend to stop living anytime soon.
At some point in their lives everyone has thought that "life sucked." I'm sure
even Bill Gates has been there. Nobody's life turns out exactly as they planned
and hoped for. That's just the way it is. It's one of those universal truths, like
gravity. And, much gravity, there is no use trying to fight it.
What seperates those unique individuals who succeed in this world is not that
their lives are easier than anyone elses, but rather, that they were willing to
face the adversity head on.
"It's better to die on your feet than live on your knees."
2) Life dealt me a bad hand...
What I always find amusing is that most people refuse to take responsibility
for the things that happen in their lives. Of course, it has nothing to do with
the decisions you have made... No, "life" has dealt you a "bad hand." Life is
an active aggressor. It hates you!
Well I have news for you, unless "life" is spelled "Lief" and refers to your
Scandinavian bridge partner, life can't deal you anything. In the game of
poker we call life, you hold all the cards. All life can do is play the cards you
Furthermore, life doesn't pay much attention to any one individual. Giving
you ample opportunity to stack the deck in your favor by way of education,
friendships, etc. You will be amazed at the doors that open to you once you
take responsibility for the choices that you make.
3) No one understands me...
That's right. No one else has ever felt the way you feel right now. No one can
relate to you... least of all your parents. The other kids at school think you're
a freak. It's a tragedy. Yeah, right...
First off, what did you expect? You walked into school today looking like
something the cat would neglect to drag in. Your skin is so white there are
albinos walking up to you telling you to get some sun. Your fishnet stockings
look like something Good Will threw in the trash. With your dark eye shadow
and lip stick you have a definite "night of the living dead" going on. And the
leather collar, jacket, mini-skirt and army surplus boots add so much to your
Don't get me wrong. I love the look! If it were me standing there, I would be
all over you like flies on shit. But I'm not. And the average person just isn't
going to be all that accepting of your decision. But I think that was part of the
point, wasn't it? To express yourself. To be an individual.
Well, it worked. You should be ecstatic. Instead, you are upset because you
are an outsider. The truth is, that has nothing to do with your aesthetic. It's
just who you are. Embrace it.
4) The last thing I want to share with you is something that my mother told
me when I was younger that has kept me going through the toughest times in
"If I die, there are people who will be hurt. They will cry and they will mourn
my passing. These are my friends and family. These are the last people I want
"If I die, there will be others who will be glad that I am gone. They will laugh
and smile at the thought of my passing. These are my enemies and I hate
them. Why would I want to do anything that would bring them even the
slightest bit of joy?" - My mom